New Job

So far its going really well.  I started Monday in a supervisory role in a new office, same company.  Its actually the corporate offices and a call center.  My department is relatively small in the scheme of the whole building…but I really like being around others.  It gives me more people to kind of befriend than my prior office.  My old job had only 9-10 people and if you didn't get along with anyone there weren't really places to escape to.  We had a lunch room and that was it.  This new office has probably 30-40 people working at a given time.  Not to mention the corporate offices are right upstairs.  Some people may find that intimidating, but we rarely see them where I am…its a comfort to know they are right there.  Of course if you had asked me that back in November when my boss got fired, I may not have agreed.  But I know realize what went down and I am on a good career path for me.  I did what was right for my happiness and for my family.  And I am away from the drama queens of my old office.  Yay!  Whats meant to be, will be.  I really like my company and it has been around forever, so another comfort. So long as I prove myself, I will continue on a good path.  Another good thing about being in this office is that we learn a lot more background stuff…the why's and how's of whats being done.  I honestly felt kind of left out in my old office.  Like we never knew the reasoning behind certain decisions.  

I've started training on my new responsibilities and thats going well too.  Its not much more at this point, but it has a lot of potential.  So if I can handle these jobs/responsibilities then I will be more able to move up quicker. Everyone seems happy to have me there.  In my old job, I had spent a lot of time on the phone with some departments that are in my new building and since I've made the move…its like I already have friends!  I have people to sit with at lunch and its not awkward like if it was a whole new company.  And because of my performance level at my old position, the HR and area manager seem very happy to have me!

Not the way we planned

I don't want to say what happened yesterday hasn't made me upset, but on the whole, everything happens for a reason…I truly believe that statement.

We were all geared up for our fertility appointment and miraculously we only left about 10-15 minutes later than we planned.  In all honesty…that 15 minutes, may be the reason we are still alive.  We had thought Friday traffic before a holiday and school vacation wouldn't be so bad and we made relatively good time to a certain point…then we were stopped.  Barely moving 5 miles an hour.  As I got angrier, traffic still didn't move.  I was upset with my husband for downplaying the Boston traffic scene, I was mad that we had left later than planned.  

Come to find out there was a very terrible accident somewhere ahead of us that left one young teacher dead.  My heart sank.  It was a complete freak accident.  I feel like I have said this many times before, but if only I had left on time…things could have been very different.  I called the clinic several times to update them on our status and finally when we were a half hour late and still not at the exit, they decided to reschedule us.  Unfortunately, we can't be seen for another 6 weeks!  I am disappointed, but my thoughts are still with that young teachers family and friends.  The clinic will put us on a cancellation list, but because its a second opinion we have to have an early as possible appointment…so its unlikely we'd be able to make it last minute.  

I'm going to take this time to work through my emotions and concentrate on the life I've been given.  I start my new position (same company) on Monday as well as celebrate turning 32.  I have learned in my life to never take one day for granted and I will celebrate all the days I've been given.  Life's too short and you never know when your time will be up.  My days are precious.  And I think this delay will give me time to concentrate on my new position within my company.  I am nervous about change, but I am eager for the opportunity.  

I heard this country song the other day and sobbed through the entire thing. It's incredibly powerful.  Please take the 4+ minutes to watch and really listen to the words.  I listen to music often and I feel a huge connection to theses words.  I most certainly try to live by them daily.  ((And Tim McGraw is pretty good eye candy)) *winkwink*

Emotions of Infertility

It's definitely coming down to the wire here.  It's been 3.5 years off birth control, 3.5 years of trying to conceive naturally and with treatments.  3.5 years of trying all the remedies and all the old wives tales.  3.5 years of watching friends and family become parents (some more than once). 3.5 years of emotional stress of trying to create a family of our own. 3.5 years of infertility.

Our second opinion appointment is in just about a week and a half and my emotions are more mixed than ever.  Yes, we've been there before.  We've tried some of the treatments, we've had all the tests…but this is pretty much a last resort.  This will be the "big guns" as they say.  In-Vitro Fertilization.  It is the most invasive of the fertility treatments, which is why it is usually the last thing doctors try.  There are many drugs involved.  Some are shots, some are creams, some are suppositories to keep you from miscarrying.  In addition, throughout the whole process there are endless tests, ultrasounds and blood work.

I am having so many mixed emotions, I don't even know where to begin.

Sadness:  I am sad that it has come to this.  The one thing that woman are "bred" to do naturally, and I can't even do that.  I feel like my body is broken…I have so many other health issues…why does infertility have to be one?  Why can't this one thing be easy for me, like it is for so many others?  I am hoping that eventually this sadness will give way to better emotions. It's just a part of life.  Certainly there are other people out there who have this very issue and this emotion.

Jealousy:  This ones tough to explain.  I dread sounding ungrateful.  I definitely have a lot of things going for me and I am so grateful for my current health…but I am painfully jealous of woman who can get pregnant easily.  Those who have "honeymoon" babies. Yes, your babies are loved and I am glad of that…but what about people who take their children for granted.  Those are the ones that make it so much harder to explain the jealousy.  Those who have children taken away from them, but then they keep on pro-creating. Or those who hurt their children physically and emotionally... Thats where it gets really freaking unfair.  Thats what really sucks about infertility.

Anger:  This goes along with the last part of jealousy.  I think if you read that portion, you will understand why I am angry about this process.

Excitement: I am so eagerly anticipating this appointment.  I want to get this process started, I want to meet our new doctor and I want to move forward.  We live in a great time and place for this wonderful medical treatment. Our insurance will cover most (if not all…thank you Massachusetts!) of our treatment.  If we lived in any other time or place, we probably wouldn't be seeking treatment.  I want to hear what our doctor has to say, she's supposed to be the best in the clinic!  And I want to see success.  If I keep these hopes up, maybe it will up our chances.

Happiness: That my husband and I are in this together.  That we have chosen each other and that we are ready to embark on this journey.  It won't be easy and it won't always be fun, but we have each other.  We'll get through this together, no matter what happens.  I'm happy for online support groups.  Infertility is such a personal and private struggle, my Cysters and (non-CF) friends that have been through infertility are a great treasure.  Although our journeys may not be exactly the same, it helps to know we are not alone in the struggle.  I wouldn't wish this pain on anyone, but I am glad to have others who've been there.

I am sure as things move forward there will be many more emotions.  I want it to happen quickly, but I know I need to practice patience.  Our baby will come when we are ready and when the time is perfect for us.